Feeling like i am adjusting to being single

I am nowhere near being ready... but I'm also lonely... and i look forward and realize that I'm terrified... I don't think i could do this again. how will i tell some guy who loves me someday that i don't ever want to get married again? because i really don't think i will... how do you tell someone "yeah i love you, but i don't trust that you will later so i'm not going to ever marry you"

There was a time when I used to getting dumped (even dumping). but now, I cant even understand why I wanted to be with somebody. I was definitely a loser magnet and hope to lose my magnetic power. Its all just a gamble. What is life without loving and getting hurt.? Fear of failure, the mother of all fears will always keep us down and single. But when you know you can love someone and get the same back, dont stop yourself. You might regret later..Try to trust that person. Not all relationships fail.

Have you ever found yourself obsessed with someone you never even met ! Thats how i feel ! I just cant get this person out of my mind ! He is like so way out of my league and i know hes all bout playing but im just so caught up in him ! I want to think i am capable of handleing a guy like him without getting hurt but the truth is im not ! The whole situation just makes me feel like such a loser like who am i fooling i cant even get an average guy to like me and be real to me , i sure aint getting no hot young stud ! The real problem is he knows he has that effect on me and every other women he comes across and seems to enjoy it ! Im real as real can be why cant he be the same and stop playin me then maybe i can feel more comfortable bout these thoughts i have and not be so obsessed ! Its like hes gods gift to women but of coarse more then one ! Thats just not acceptable and I would never be comfortable with that !

how do you move on or get past it. I still have wake up pissed that he isnt here with me. I hate waking up to this reality,im still stuck i suppose,but he has moved on.I have tried everything! I moved across the country, tried a new job, tried a new relationship, nothing worked!!!!!!

i've said it before... i'm done with the cute confident charming crazy "out of my league" misunderstood bad boys... i didn't TRY to get that... i thought he was reformed and i had met him at just the right time... LOLOLOLOL!!!!

i want a nice boring, plain looking... if not homely... normal kind man... someone who is grown up... who thinks all of that party crap is as stupid as i do and who has already got that stuff out of their system and is ready for stuff like kids, a job, a savings account, casarole dinners, board games, laundry, date nights, a pudgy wife, budgets, bills, sex with one woman, playing with the kids at the park, fantasy football leagues/friendly poker games/camping weekends with his buddies (which don't involve strippers or drugs), household projects, a family to come home to every night, some basic interest in some greater good (the environment or social justice) which helps him make everyday choices and encourages involvement in some kind of larger charity project a couple of times a year, grilling with friends, you know THAT kind of stuff... any guy who reads that and says "Jesus sounds like a nightmare" or even just "ew" just isn't at the point in life to be with me... any guy who reads that and says "I am ready for that" is the guy for me.

no more hot complicated mystery guys with problems I "need" to "fix" or who just needs someone to "understand" him... I'm not a therapist or parole officer... I've given up those hobbies, LOL

We live, we love, we lose. It blows. The pain is awful, it's overbearing, and ya the thought of possibly having to go through it again is frightening beyond belief. But if you do start having feelings for someone, I wouldn't shy away from it, it could turn into something amazing, and it may by worth the risk. At some point we all have to jump back on the bandwagon, just try to make sure when you get on the wagon again it's going to the right destination :)

I just have to say that JessicaC hit the nail right on the head with that one !